The Adulting Lady

They make it look easy, don’t they? The ones who seem successful. The new graduates, successful career women, businesswomen, wives with good husbands, mothers with healthy and smart children, and popular influencers whose lives seem perfect. We make up excuses in our heads for them. Oh, they must have grown up with silver spoons, or it’s because they are so pretty, or they have always been lucky. We think, oh they grew up in good families with both parents, that’s why they do it seemingly so effortlessly. WelI, I have grown to find out that very little happens as a result of what I just mentioned. It may be partly true for those individuals, yes, but I assure you, they did work to be who they are and have what they have.

The lives we live are a result of cause and effect. You do nothing, you get nothing. You do something, and something happens in you, and then you see results. Those people you admire? Some of the work they’ve done was done without specific intention, but it was work nonetheless, as a result of life just happening, or the nudges of others. For example, going to school, which is something every child does, and then applying to a good university and getting in. This is not lucky. There was work done there. They decided that they would study for good grades, so they made an effort. So when this person then gets a good job and makes an effort, even the littlest effort, they can achieve a rewarding career. The successful businesswoman and the influencer? They worked on their skills. They learned how to network, look good, and be worth the time and money of investors. They learned how to create content, edit it, and post it. They learned their craft by doing. Even if they were afraid, they did it anyway. When no one paid them attention, they decided they would continue, whilst keeping hope that one day someone would notice and it will bear results. And finally it did. So really it starts with you deciding.

I know, it’s hard. Especially with personal fears as a result of traumas we’ve built up growing up, and maybe even the challenges we’ve faced that have shaped the way we think. All is still possible if we believe hard enough and pursue it hard enough. Consistently and as best as we can. Not perfectly, but just the best way we can whilst we learn. No one starts off perfect. I know you’ve heard the phrase “Just do it.” before. That’s some great advice right there. Because the more you just do it, the more you get better at it and learn new tricks. One day, you will wake up being the successful one others look up to. I promise. Go for it.

Your fellow adulting lady.